“Sometimes we need to re-tool ourselves. The way you have operated no longer serves you or those around you. How you will function without those old ways you haven’t a clue. Still, any more action based on that dated operating system is untenable, grating. It takes a serious dollop of trust and patience to allow space for something new to emerge. I believe it is worth the wait. Though great intelligence is often crammed into one earthly skull, there are intelligences of heart and spirit whose directive powers can only unfurl to new standing in the permitted pauses we so rarely welcome or endure.” — Gil Hedley
“… in a culture that consistently mistakes perfection for wholeness, we are discouraged from dancing with the brokenness, messiness, and imperfection of our interior lives — and yet only when do so can we begin to feel whole and measure our lives in terms of deep meaning rather than superficial success.” – Maria Popova
This is from her writing of David Brooks’ The Road to Character in a post entitled “The Road to Character: David Brooks on the Art of Stumbling, “Résumé Virtues” vs. “Eulogy Virtues,” and the Humility Code of Living a Meaningful Life.“ I am overwhelmingly impressed and grateful for her brilliant weaving, writing and sharing on brainpickings.org.
“For the warrior, the experience of sad and tender heart is what gives birth to fearlessness. Conventionally, being fearless means that you are not afraid or that, if someone hits you, you will hit him back. However, we are not talking about that street-fighter level of fearlessness. Real fearlessness is the product of tenderness. It comes from letting the world tickle your heart, your raw and beautiful heart. You are willing to open up, without resistance or shyness, and face the world. You are willing to share your heart with others.”- Chögyam Trungpa
More wisdom from When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times:
“There is nobody on the planet, neither those whom we see as the oppressed nor those whom we see as the oppressor, who doesn’t have what it takes to wake up. We all need support and encouragement to be aware of what we think, what we say, and what we do. Notice your opinions. If you find yourself becoming aggressive about your opinions, notice that. If you find yourself being nonaggressive, notice that. Cultivating a mind that does not grasp at right and wrong, you will find a fresh state of being. The ultimate cessation of suffering comes from that. Finally, never give up on yourself. Then you will never give up on others. Wholeheartedly do what it takes to awaken your clear-seeing intelligence, but one day at a time, one moment at a time. If we live that way, we will benefit this earth.” — Pema Chödrön
Revisited my notes last week from Pema Chödrön‘s “When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times” when saw it was her 80th birthday and 20th anniversary of the book – timeless…and timely:
“We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”– Pema Chödrön
Much gratitude for her life’s work and teachings.